Need to get off my chest

[Fleurdelacour]

Now we're back again. I've been desperate for advice from the lovely wise people here.


I'm turning 16 in two months. I really dont want to,

I cam here when I was thirteen... And in that short time, I've had to grow up, not wanting too... Desperatly, I do not want to grow up, start a career, etc.

We've had career advisors since Year Nine (third year) in Secondary School, 13 and 14 years of age, they were expecting us to make decisions about our career.

It was bad enough choosing our GCSE subjects. We could have had a trail, at least. GCSE History was a mistake, its boring (I thought we were doing the wars... Nope, war politics...) and lonely.

Art is fantastic though..

My school pushes us forward. No, infact, the Goverment is pushing us forward. My friend got her interview for college today (its on alphabetical order, wont get it for a while...) COLLEGE interview... Christ the King 6th Form...

Yet the school only helps out those who are talented, yet they preach everyone is talented, because of God said so.

I know I am talented in Art (work in gallery, at a young age...), I want to be an artist/designer I think... But they dont help me!

Those of us not in the selected classes (Eugene and Julius) get treated like rubbish! If we're late for school, (dont get me started on rush-hour London...) we have to write lines, even if the bus didn't come, or something WRITE LINES! AT OUR AGE!

Eugene and Julius don't Thy get a five minute detention and get brushed off...

Can someone explain why 'talented' girls, get all the help, whist us 'dumb eegits' are leftin the shadows, expected to scrape through our last year of Secondary School...?

Please, someone, I cant take the blatant favouritism anymore...

[Mellon]

Aww, Fleur :hug:

Your school sounds really bad. Look on it this way - the sooner you grow up, the sooner you can get out of there ;)

Seriously, growing up is a good thing. It's so nice when people stop looking on you as a kid and start looking on you as a person. It's my personal view that as soon as you leave school, life gets far far better :)
If, in a couple of years, you want to go to art college, you don't need your school to help you. It's bad that they don't, sure, but the point is you don't need them - all they do is write your reference, and they're going to do that pretty much the same wherever you want to go.
It'll be OK. Honest. :)

[Seriphus]

Fleur I know how you feel. It seems like I'm constantly trying to put the breaks on where growing up is concerned.
All I can say is that right now it isn't as bad as I had feared when I was your age. I'm in my second year at uni now and it's so different from school and there's so much less favouritism here. You've just got to hold on and get through your last year. In a way you're lucky having a path that you want to follow. I still have no idea what to do with my life and getting decent advice is difficult. But, as Mellon says, life gets better after school.

Anyway, enjoy your art and don't let anyone make you feel that you have to be all grown up.

Serphy

[Elfëa]

:hug:

Growing up in such enviroment sounds painful - as if growing up wasn't painful enough on its own.

But time will golden memories and when you'll get past difficult times, you can look back and smile. :)

I know. :rolleyes: - I didn't have a single friend at school.

Enjoy the things you like, even if you cannot make the most of them... But only after trying to make most of them of course :p ;)

[Hellga]

We've had career advisors since Year Nine (third year) in Secondary School, 13 and 14 years of age, they were expecting us to make decisions about our career.

I decided I want to be a pharmacist when I was... let's count... when I was 12. Seven years later I am actively working towards becoming a pharmacist, and the more experience I get with my chosen profession, the more I like my choice.

I always wanted to grow up. And I like being grown up. I can go to a store and buy whatever I want whenever I want and I don't have to explain anything to anyone. I can eat or don't eat supper. I can eat whatever I want. I can study what I want to study and not study what I don't want. I can talk to whomever I want. Though my parents are great people, and I would say the only difference between me being 12 and me now is what I have my own job, my own money and my own bank account so I can buy that DVD player if I want to even though I have a brand-new VCR :rolleyes: :)

Yes, growing up means responsibility for your actions (though I admit many people live their whole life without ever being responsible :rolleyes: :mad: ), but it also means freedom.

I think 18 & 19 are the best ages there are. You will see when you get there :hug: Don't you wan't to leave teenage years behind you forever? ;)

[Fleurdelacour]

Thank you all for all your lovely support :) :hug:

I'm thinking about becoming a hermit in my bedroom and only going out at night and scavenging for food, and painting christmas trees black and calling it art ;)

I just dont feel ready to grow up... Just had first bout of exams, two hours of english, wrote 8 pages on To Kill a Mockingbird and 17th Century poems...

My parents let me be independant, they know I'm not gonig to get in trouble with police, get pregnant or anything (well I hope they dont)

My parents want me to get a job though... I'm to shy to get a job, and clumsy...

[Hellga]

I'm to shy to get a job, and clumsy...

There is no such thing as "clumsy". :)

You might try something phone-based, if you are shy. Or some job what puts in position of authority (NOT waitressing - I could never be a waitress. Me as a servant? :rolleyes: :D), whether real or presumed, doesn't matter too much. People have innate respect for uniforms of all kinds, and of white jackets. You might try cashiering in a pharmacy, for example :cool:

[Elfdaughter]

I'm 17, so I know exactly how you feel - and I know that it passes. You are at a really important stage - schoolwise, so concentrate on your studies, but make some time for relaxation. Remember, when these three years are up, then you can relax a bit more. You don't need to get a job - in fact I'd advise you not to. You need to concentrate on your schoolwork, because these years are going to be stressful - trust me, I'm in my last year in 6th form.

[Sirius Black]

Why do they want you to find a job? Chip in something towards rent and food (and the phone, of course :D), for the experience or don't they want you to go on to College at all?

It's a good thing to keep parents happy as well as one can, but at the same time - make sure everyone around you realizes that it's YOUR life. Hellga's right - the good thing about growing up is the freedom... to make decisions. Very scary thing, but great once you get the hang of it. ;)
It's great that you have an artistic talent - nurture it! (even if it means black christmas trees :cool: )
SB

[Fleur]

Tcha I know who you feel, sister!

I just got a letter from a college offering me an interview. I can't wait to leave school, but at the same time I am terrified of growing up. What if, God Forbid, I become.. boring? eek.

Don't worry to much about getting a job. I have one, and it's ok, hard work, but you get money! Lotsa money! So that's good.

My advice is just go with the flow, you can't force anything, so just sit back and enjoy everything for what it is.